Both Men and Women are to blame

I’ve seen it numerous times on my facebook or twitter  from women complaining about men saying they ain’t sh*t or how awful we are. As a man I really do get tired of seeing that and having numerous debates about men vs. women with friends. To be perfectly honest men shouldn’t take all the blame for the frustration of women, who have either been cheated on, lead on and never got a call back and etc.  Both sides are to blame to get to the root of this issue take a closer look at marriage and the role of parents in child development. The key element for any family is the man, who is the backbone for the family by providing for the family as well protecting and providing support for his wife and kids. Now in our society a lot of kids are growing up in single parent homes and for some, their parents had a bad break up which may have affected them mentally and emotionally. With the kids whose parents had a bad break up they are dealing with a lot of issues such as anger, resentment, stress, and more responsibility.

For example if the father has left the family home due to a divorce: this is how it affects a boy, it takes a man to raise a man there’s only so much that a mother can teach her son.  The rest is up to the father to teach his son the dynamics of a man and woman relationship the way a father treats his wife will more likely be the same way his son will treat woman. Now for women if their father is not around its hard because fathers are usually the man in their life for many years. How a father treats his daughter and wife affects a daughter’s relationship with men throughout her life. If the father didn’t treat them right more likely she will  choose the wrong men who will disrespect them and some cases abuse them.  Now for mothers they provide emotionally support for both the son and daughter. A mother’s attitude towards other men can damage the way a son sees himself as well as women. So if the mother who was in a bad marriage and has a bad divorce shows her anger and bitterness more likely it’s going to affect her sons self esteem and any relationship he has with any women. Same logic applies to the daughter who in turns repeats the same behavior that her mother has towards men will go on and repeat the cycle.

This cycle is nothing new and will continue to go on just the next time you’re dealing with a person you like and you thinking about marriage just be sure you see the whole picture before jumping the broom.